There are many reasons that you might sabotage yourself. It’s an extremely common behavior rooted in the fear of the unknown.
Although self-sabotage is a subconscious behavior, you can get a handle on it.
If you’ve been surrounding yourself in mediocrity, the idea of greatness can be scary.
The first step is to find out why you self-sabotage:
You might self-sabotage because you need to be in control of your circumstances. The easiest and most certain way to stay in control is to maintain the status quo.
Here’s what I mean. If you put your all into something, you run the risk of becoming vulnerable. Fear gets the best of you, and you self-sabotage.
Do you feel unworthy of greatness?
For whatever reason, you may have decided that happiness ought to be forever beyond your reach. This is a self-limiting idea, and then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Maybe you ruin your efforts because you’re seeking excitement.
You feel the need to remain in a constant state of turmoil to distract yourself from painful memories or alleviate boredom.
If you see yourself in any of these descriptions, don’t worry. I, too, have felt them before.
Here are the steps you can take to defeat your self-sabotage:
Observe your behavior.
It’s super important that you begin to observe yourself.
To keep track of this, start journaling. Every day you notice you’ve sabotaged yourself.
Make sure you write down the setting and circumstances, how you felt, and the end result.
You may have heard this before, but actions speak louder than words. Your actions will show what your true intentions are.
First, ask yourself what does success mean for you? Be specific. Don’t say, “I want to have a profitable business.”
What does that look like? $10K months, $20K months, $50k months?
Whatever it is, write it down and become crystal clear on what that looks like.
Then start envisioning yourself achieving this. It doesn’t matter the how. It just matters on that feeling of achieving it.
Let go of the idea of perfection.
As you visualize success, are you still thinking that success equals perfection?
If so, it’s time to realize that nobody is perfect. It may be messy, but you’ll still get there.
Here’s how your subconscious mind plays a role in perfectionism.
Here is what George Bernard Shaw would refer to as “doublethink.”
Perfection and life are mutually exclusive because perfection is unattainable. Your subconscious won’t allow you to achieve success if you associate success with the impossible task of being perfect.
Think of your subconscious as a computer. It doesn’t know how to execute a command called “do the impossible.”
If you associate success with fear, your subconscious will fight you the entire way.
Why? Because its primary function is to protect you from perceived threats.
Instead, give yourself permission to anticipate success with excitement.
Because if you fear success, you’ve been sending your subconscious the message, “Don’t give me success!”
And I know you don’t want that!
So, let’s put your self-sabotaging behaviors in the past!
Embrace the good life you deserve by picturing yourself as successful, and then refuse to talk yourself out of going for it.
The journey to your dream business and life starts now!